Happy New Year (+ 10 Things to Leave Behind as We Move Forward)!

Happy New Year (+ 10 Things to Leave Behind in the New Decade) blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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Let me start by wishing everyone the very best in the new year and new decade!

The 2010s seemed to drag by, especially these past couple of years. To be honest, the last decade wasn’t a good one for me. Although some great things happened, I also lost my mom. Longtime friendships ended for no good reason. Things I’d been counting on working out, didn’t. Things I’d been hoping would happen never did. My much-loved car got totalled. And, oh yeah, my house was destroyed (sadly, I’m not being melodramatic– thank you, ice storm of 2013).

But all of that is in the past now and I feel a change in the air. Things are about to get good.

Happy New Year (+ 10 Things to Leave Behind in the New Decade) blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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As we look ahead to a (hopefully) brighter future, I’ve put together a quick list of things we all need to leave behind as we start a brand new decade…

  1. Regrets. Unless you’ve got a time machine and can go back and change things, let go of ‘what ifs’ and ‘should’ve dones.’ On the other hand, if there’s something you can still do– go for it. It’s never too late.
  2. Facebook. There are many reasons to quit Facebook (this article goes into some of them). Although the site is helpful in promoting my books, I’m seriously thinking of leaving (or at least shifting my focus to other social media sites).
  3. Outdated thinking. When the wheel was invented, there were undoubtedly people who didn’t see the point of the new invention; those people quickly got left behind (where they were probably picked off by sabre-toothed tigers). Things change, including the way the world thinks. It’s time to reconsider the beliefs we hold on to that are holding us back.
  4. The myth that working hard = success. People who have done well in life like to claim that hard work is what got them there. If you look closely, though, what you’ll find is that they actually owe their success to good connections, plenty of help, and a lot of luck. I mean a lot. Hard work might help you maintain it, but if all you needed to succeed was to work hard, the 1% and the 99% would have switched places a long time ago.
  5. The idea that there’s only one way to live. There is no such thing as one-size-fits-all when it comes to life. What works for you won’t necessarily work for anyone else (and vice versa).
  6. Conspiracies. You haven’t discovered mind-blowing super secret knowledge that everyone else is too blind/asleep/indoctrinated to see– you’re just delusional. Bonus fact: real evidence isn’t found on the internet.
  7. Cats vs dogs. This isn’t a thing. All animals are awesome.
  8. Anything vs anything else. We create artificial divisions to give us a false sense of belonging and it’s stupid. We’re all in this together: it’s time we started acting like it instead of going out of our way to create problems. We don’t have to be identical to get along and work together.
  9. Plastic. The entire planet is choking on the stuff, and recycling isn’t working. There are more and more alternatives to plastic every day, including products made of green materials, and products that come in plastic-free (or no) packaging. Seek those out.
  10. Bizarre humanoid singing-and-dancing CGI cat creatures. Let’s all just pretend that never happened, shall we?

What do you think– anything to add to the list? Share in the comments. All the best in 2020!

Cheers,

Aspasía S. Bissas

Happy New Year (+ 10 Things to Leave Behind in the New Decade!) blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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Happy Solstice!

Happy Solstice from Aspasia S. Bissas
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Happy Winter Solstice! May the darkest and coldest night of the year bring you light and warmth in the weeks ahead…

(And happy Summer Solstice to those in the southern hemisphere– wishing you peace as the sun begins its retreat…)

Cheers,

Aspasía S. Bissas

(PS. Make sure to check back on Monday for a special end-of-year announcement!)

Weekend Reading

Weekends are made for reading, aren’t they? There’s not much that’s better than getting lost in a story and ignoring the outside world for a while. One of my favourite parts is picking what to read next. If you’re in the mood for something with bite, check out my new short story Tooth & Claw. It’s inspired by real events and is free to download…

Tooth & Claw, free short story by Aspasia S. Bissas

Mara, Dominic, and their fellow vampires arrive in Marseille, France in 1909, only to find another predator already on the loose. As the city tries to cope with a killer stalking the streets, Mara struggles to separate memory from delusion. Can she find peace when the past is haunting, the present overwhelming, and the future hopeless? Inspired by real events.

Tooth & Claw is a standalone story set in the Love Lies Bleeding universe.

Available FREE at SmashwordsBarnes & NobleApple BooksIndigo, Kobo, and other online book retailers.

As for myself, I’m currently reading (and enjoying) My Age of Anxiety by Scott Stossel. If you suffer from any kind of anxiety or panic disorder (or even if you don’t), you’ll find this book both fascinating and insightful.

Cheers,

Aspasía S. Bissas

PS: Don’t forget to leave a rating or review after you’ve finished Tooth & Claw!

Book Tag: Reader Problems

Book Tag: Reader Problems, blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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As much as I love reading, I’m not going to lie– sometimes it can be frustrating. Whether it’s too many books and not enough time, or inconveniently getting the feels in public, read on to find out how I deal with the downside of bibliophilia…

(Tag originally found on A.M. Molvik’s Ramblings.)

You have 20,000 books on your TBR. How in the world do you decide what to read next?

Between my physical books and ebooks, my TBR is probably pretty close to that number! I have a haphazard system where I alternate between something random from the priority TBR pile on my nightstand and something off a list I’m trying to get through. Every so often I’ll also throw in a book that caught my attention and needs to be read immediately.

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You’re halfway through a book and you’re just not loving it. Do you put it down or are you committed?

I used to always finish, no matter what, but I don’t have the patience for that anymore. There are too many good books out there to waste time on the ones you don’t enjoy.

The end of the year is coming and you’re behind on your reading challenge. Do you try to catch up? And if so, how?

I don’t do reading challenges– they seem like a great way to take the joy out of reading.

The covers of a series you love do not match. How do you cope?

If I really, really love the series I might try to find copies with matching covers to replace the odd ones; otherwise, I live with different covers (although it does annoy me).

Book Tag: Reader Problems, blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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Everyone and their mothers love a book that you do not. Who do you bond with over your shared feelings?

I suffer in silence (or write a post about it).

You’re reading a book in public and you’re about to start crying. How do you deal?

It’s rare* for a book to make me cry, and even rarer for me to cry in public, so I doubt this would ever be an issue. If it happened, though, I’d probably stop reading and go look for a bathroom.

(*The last time was a few months ago when I was reading Elizabeth, the Queen, a biography of Elizabeth I. Needless to say, I was not expecting that. At least I was home.)

The sequel to a book you loved just came out but you’ve forgotten a lot of what happens. Are you going to reread it?

Definitely! I might even reread if I haven’t forgotten anything.

You do not want anyone borrow your books. How do you politely say no when someone asks?

I let people know that they’re welcome to come over and read here, but the books don’t leave the house. My SO, meanwhile, has a long list of rules on how to handle his books, which seems to discourage would-be borrowers. But there’s also something to be said about supporting authors by borrowing from a library instead of a friend (and you help support the library too).

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You have picked up and put down 5 books in the last month. How do you get over this reading slump?

I’ve actually never had that problem. I guess I’d try to figure out what was causing my lack of interest in the books and then do my best to solve that. Or I might read something different, like comic books, for a while. I’d also try not to stress about it– the need to read always returns.

There are so many books coming out that you are dying to read. How many do you end up buying?

I’ll put them all on my wishlist and get them eventually, although I might get the one I’m most excited about right away.

Book Tag: Reader Problems, blog post by Aspasia S. Bissas
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After you purchase all of these books that you’ve been dying to read, how long do they sit on your shelves before you get to them?

I admit it, they can wait for a while before I get to them (sometimes years), but I do get to them. I’m starting to think I’m the only person left who still finds value in old books.

So, what do you think? How do you cope with reader problems? Share in the comments…

Cheers,

Aspasía S. Bissas